September 24, 2013

Decisions, Decisions

"Why are you looking at my phone?" I asked. It was all I could think to say.

"You left it on the table," Peter said. "I thought it was mine." He tossed the phone onto the bed.

Peter and I did have the same white iPhone 5. And I do tend to walk around with my phone in my hand, putting it down wherever I land. But had I left it on the table or had it been in my bag? I honestly couldn't remember.

This was all secondary to whatever it was that Peter had read. I dug around in the sheets, found the phone, and turned it on.

'I really have nothing to say for myself except to say I'm sorry. Not that it matters, but I didn't sleep with her.'

THANKS FOR THAT, RICHARD. I looked up at Peter. The expression on his face was a mix of confusion and sadness, and it broke my heart.

"I don't want to pry into your life, Josie," Peter said. "You're not my girlfriend, but I mean...if you saw that on my phone you'd want to know too." He sighed. "What the hell is that about?"

I folded my legs underneath me and wondered where to begin. I didn't feel like it was deceptive to keep this from Peter before, but it definitely would be deceptive to lie when asked point blank about it. So I told Peter everything, starting with the Social Media party. Well, I guess I didn't tell him everything. I skipped the part about our conversation at work, the one where Richard asked me if I felt anything for him and I didn't know how to answer because I did.

"I remember this guy," Peter said, when I finished.

"You do?"

"Yeah, from your Hamptons house. I could tell he liked you."

"I don't think he likes me. I think he just wants to sleep with me and he isn't used to girls who don't want to sleep with him," I said. Off Peter's expression, I instantly regretted saying that. For some reason I remembered this one lesson from my Intro to Psych class in college. The professor was trying to demonstrate how different men and women are when it comes to love. She asked the room which scenario would be more hurtful—for your partner to fall in love with someone emotionally—no sex—or, for your partner to have meaningless sex with a random person and feel nothing. All the girls in the room raised their hands to show that they would prefer their boyfriend to have meaningless sex with someone, and all the guys raised their hands to show they'd rather their girlfriend fall in love with someone emotionally. The point is guys just really don't like the idea of another P near their V.

"But I don't want to sleep with him," I added, quickly.

"You sure?" Peter asked, quietly.

I would have said anything to make this situation better. And even though it wasn't entirely true that I didn't want to sleep with Richard (a little part of me is curious, I can't help it—the vagina wants what the vagina wants), it was true that I would never actually do it. So I didn't feel like I was being dishonest by saying, "Yes, Peter. I'm sure."

Peter sighed and ran his fingers through his hair. "Here's the thing, Josie. It's not that I don't believe you. It's more...I feel like you just like to court this kind of drama."

"Says the guy who gave it another go with the biggest drama queen I've ever met," I shot back. "Did you ever stop to think that maybe you like the drama?"

"Yeah," Peter said. "I have. And you're right, I was like that once. Over the last year, I thought a lot about the choices I've made, and what I was doing wrong, because I wasn't happy. I don't want to play these little mind games any more. I'm too old for that shit."

"I'm not playing mind games," I said. "You popped up into my life out of nowhere. I had stuff going on, okay? This Richard thing, this had been brewing since summer."

"I had stuff going on too!" Peter said. "I had a girlfriend."

"That's not fair," I said. "You wanted to revisit things, and I told you to call me but only if you were single, which, I'm sorry, is a normal and decent thing to do. But at the same time, I'm not going to just drop everything in my life the second you show up. We agreed to take this slow."

"I never asked you to drop everything for me."

"Fine, then don't be mad that I didn't."

We were both silent for a moment. "So what are we even fighting about right now?" I asked.

"I just don't like it," Peter said. "Would you?"

"No," I said. "I'm sorry for that. But at the same time I don't feel like I've necessarily done anything wrong. Are you seriously telling me that you're not playing a little bit on your own too?"

Peter was silent for a moment, and it was like a punch to the gut. I suddenly understood what he was feeling. "It's like friends trying to set me up," he said. "But the whole time I'm with these women I just wish I was with you."

That got the water works going. I felt like I was back at square one, wishing Peter and I had better timing, and that we both wanted the same things at the same time. "I just don't know how to be casual with you," I said, wiping a tear off my cheek. "I feel like we're all or nothing, but I don't know if I'm ready to be all right now."

Peter bit his lower lip, but didn't say anything.

"Are you ready to be all right now?" I asked.

"Sometimes, yes," Peter said. "But sometimes, no." It was exactly how I felt.

He came towards me then. He sat down on the bed and hugged me. I was so exhausted I could have fallen asleep right there on his shoulder. Eventually we crawled back under the covers, curled up, and went to bed.

When I woke up in the morning, Peter wasn't beside me. I checked my phone—it was almost 11am. I couldn't remember the last time I'd slept that late.  I rolled out of bed and stumbled into the bathroom. I brushed my teeth and splashed water on my face. My face looked like Mama Elsa's from Real Housewives of Miami—swollen and puffy.

Peter was in the kitchen, making eggs, when I finally emerged from the bedroom. I pulled up a bar stool and took a seat. "Hi," I said.

Peter turned around. "Hi."

"Any epiphanies in the middle of the night?"

Peter smiled. "Not really. You?"

I shook my head. Peter pointed at the eggs in the pan. "You want any?"

"Sure."

Peter divided the eggs between two plates and pulled up a seat next to me. We ate in silence. When we finished, I said, "So, are we going to talk about it?"

Peter shrugged. "Didn't we?"

"I mean, where do we stand?" I asked.

"What do you want?" Peter asked.

 "I want to keep seeing you," I said. "But I meant it when I said I want to take things slowly. I don't think we should just jump back into things. I hate the idea that you're dating other women, the same way you hate knowing about this Richard thing. But it's just the reality of the situation, I guess."

Peter toyed with a lone piece of egg on his plate. "I don't want to see other women. Do you want to see other guys?"

"Not necessarily," I said. "But if we decide we're going to be exclusive, then it's not really taking it slow, is it?"

"So maybe we don't take it slow."

That gave me pause. I fiddled with my napkin. "I just feel like I made this promise to myself that I wasn't just going to jump right back into a relationship. I need to be okay with being single sometimes. It's something I've never really been able to do."

Peter pushed himself off the bar stool. He took our plates and dumped them in the sink. "You need to do what you need to do."

"What does that mean?"

"It means that you need to make a decision. Just be decisive. What we are right now, it's not really you being single, is it? So decide to be in, or not."

Was he ultimatum-ing me? It sure sounded like it. "I don't want to lose you," I said, my voice cracking over the words like a prepubescent boy's.

"So don't," Peter said. I wish Richard could have been a fly on the wall right then. Peter didn't just want to sleep with me. He wanted more. A lot more, and I wasn't sure if I was ready to give it.

"I need time to think about this," I said. "I don't know if I'm ready to be in a relationship right now."

Peter shook his head and smiled, but it wasn't a nice smile. "Go for it," he said. The words were dripping with sarcasm.

I helped Peter clean up, then changed back into my work clothes. It was awkward saying goodbye to him—I stepped in to give him a kiss and he basically negged me by turning his cheek. Hell hath no fury like a hot guy's ego bruised.

I decided to walk back to my apartment to clear my head (Peter lives about twenty-five blocks from me). On my way, I texted Nina and Ashley, 'Brunch emergency!!!' I expected Ashley to be in Westchester with her man, but to my surprise, she wrote that she'd come back early that morning.

'But I'm not really feeling up to brunch," she wrote. "I think I'm coming down with something.'

'Please?' I begged her. 'I wouldn't ask if it wasn't an emergency. We can pick a place near you.'

After a few moments, she wrote, 'You win,  you always do.' A quote from one of our favorite SNL skits with Will Ferrell.

The next person I needed to text was Richard. I wanted Richard in my life, but I also needed to keep him at a safe distance. No good could come from us hooking up, and I couldn't put myself in a position where that could happen again.

When I arrived at my apartment, I'd decided to text Richard, 'Thank you for this. Want to just pretend like the last seventy-two hours never happened?'

Then I showered, changed, and hurried out the door to meet Ashley and Nina. Maybe they would help me find some clarity with the situation.







77 comments:

  1. I hate Josie acting like she did no wrong and trying to turn the situation around on Peter. Why bring up things that happened a year ago. It's obvious she wants Richard, she should let Peter go. She made it seem like if he were single she would get back together with him and now that she has him she wants to play around. Honestly Peter deserves better. can't believe Josie wants to be friends with Richard, obviously not thinking with her head. On another note, I have a feeling Ashley is pregnant.

    While I might not agree with Josie's decisions, I'm loving the blog. Thank you Jessica. If the blog wasn't so good we wouldn't be so passionate about it!!!!

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  2. I don't get Josie!! Applause for Peter for being patient with her indecisiveness. She should know though that everyone has a boiling point and she'll be sorry to lose such a great guy! Please don't mess this up!! Jess I love your blog too much x

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  3. Thank you for making Josie actually think about this and not jump in. I am not a fan of Peter and hopefully Josie sees that this hesitation means they aren't meant to be together. Josie is such a young and fun character and this blog is great because we get to see all these hilarious ups and awful downs. I may not be in the majority but I don't think Peter is the best for this blog. I won't stop reading but I hope to read about Josie enjoying life and meeting new people and interesting guys ;)

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  4. Sleep with Richard. Get it out of your system so that chapter is closed. It will break peters heart but the longer this drama lasts the more painful it gets!!

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  5. I'm torn - I completely agree that people need to be single while they're young, at least for a couple years, to learn about themselves and have fun. At the same time, I do like Peter, and understand that he wants Josie to make up her mind. She doesn't owe him anything, though. I think I'd rather see her on her own for a little bit, maybe have a FWB thing with Richard to satisfy the curiosity. Maybe Peter isn't her guy.

    Also I'm almost completely sure that Ashley's 'something' that she's coming down with is pregnancy (hello, morning sickness!)

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  6. Peter and Josie are at different points of their life and while I like them together, they're looking for different things. I don't understand how Josie can just brush things under the rug with Richard..."let's just forget the past 72 hours"...she did the same thing after the hamptons. i get it, she likes Richard but they're issues there in my opinion. I'm confused by Josie because she got so upset with Peter having a girlfriend in the Hamptons, months after they broke up, but know that she has him she's thinking about Richard. I'd rather her be with Grady than Richard. I can't wait to see what happens next.

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  7. More more more!!!

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  8. COME ON JOS!!

    I can't stand Peter.. Josie's fun in her twenties is going to take a steeeeeeep nose dive if she continues a relationship with him. As much as he wants to be young he will get to a point where he wants children and is Josie really ready for this??

    I think Josie needs to explore things a bit with Richard. He obviously likes her, I think she should take him for more than just someone who wants to hook up with her if he lays it on the line. Josie obviously is a bit more than curious if she got jealous when he was trying to get that reaction from her. Who knows, maybe they have sex and its horrible and they laugh about it. GO FOR IT JOSIE

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    1. That's exactly what I said when I read that!

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  10. Oh wow! I feel his side but I also feel empathy towards her side too...such a dilemma. Love that he was honest with her though. I'm jumping on the Ashley baby bump wagon. That will really freak Josie out.

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  11. How old is Peter ? i know josie is in her twenties but why not go for what he has to offer you? That is something that nobody will do !!!

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    1. I think they determined he's mid-thirties back when she first dated him. Which makes him only about 10 years older than her. It's interesting to see how that little of difference in age really does make it awkward at times for them.

      Am I the only one who is still wondering if maybe Peter's ex-wife's kid could still be his. When they talked about getting back together Josie pointed out that when the evil ice queen came to the office, she looked a lot further along than Peter had thought she was. He also admitted that he wouldn't know if she had given birth yet or not because he's cut off contact with her. Lastly, the last time he had sex with her was last November.....

      hmmmmm.......

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    2. Last time the author mentioned his age she said he was 37. Josie is supposedly 25 so there is a 12 year age difference. I know the old adage that age doesn't matter, but in this case I think it does lol

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  12. Ashley is sooo pregnant!!

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  13. I feel like Peter is mad that Josie was playing the same game as any other guy. You're not exclusive, so you don't have any claim on her. You don't want her seeing anyone else, then make it official. But now that Peter is trying to do that, she needs to either woman-up or let him go.

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  14. "Yeah," Peter said. "I have. And you're right, I was like that once. Over the last year, I thought a lot about the choices I've made, and what I was doing wrong, because I wasn't happy. I don't want to play these little mind games any more. I'm too old for that shit."

    Peter has just said something very powerful. A lot of decisions we make are based on whether or not we are happy in our lives. What is Josie's real reason for her desire to sleep with Richard? Here is a guy who knowingly admits to sleeping with women and having no intentions whatsoever of being in a relationship with them. Which is fine if the other person knows what he's doing. He has used Kate (whom Josie considers to be a friend) and she knows how Kate feels about him. So exactly what is the appeal of this guy? Does it make her feel good about herself that she is to a certain extent the one Richard wants and he will screw Kate over to get her? What will Josie get out of it?

    I honestly feel like Josie makes decisions based on what she thinks makes her happy now and not in the long run. Do it now and think about the consequences later. And as another reader pointed out, she felt hurt and full of self-doubt when she saw Peter with his GF. But now all of a sudden she has a chance to be with him and now she's thinking about Richard.

    I love that Peter didn't yell or get nasty. That shows maturity and experience. I also really loved the fact that he pointed out to her that she has to make the decision. I also hope that she makes her decision based on how she feels and not what Ashley will say to her. It's understandable that she wants hear what her friends have to say, but they aren't the two people in the relationship. It's between P & J.

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    1. I agree with what you said. I hope Josie starts to grow up and realize that real life does not have to be filled with adolescent drama. I for one would like to see start to mature in terms of her job, relationship and friends. The "life is a party" mentality only goes so far.

      As for Richard, it still boggles my mind why she would want to be with someone who she knows treats the people he is sleeping with badly. He treats Josie badly when he doesn't get his way. What is the appeal in that??

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    2. Hear hear!
      Additionally, I wouldn't take to heart the advice of a woman whose sleeping with a MM and believing all his BS about his dead marriage, AND who could be pregnant by him.
      Just saying, ash ain't really popping in the good judgment department.

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  15. I think Josie is crazy. I actually feel bad for Peter! She is so immature it is ridiculous. I am sorry, but she acts like she wants to be an adult, have an adult relationship, but still acts like a girl in high school! It isn't like Peter is suggesting they get married and move to the burbs! He has told her that he wasn't happy with the childish relationship they had, but realized he really cared about her, and wants a solid, mature relationship with her. She is really going to pass that up for Richard, who honestly is a self professed douche bag? Here is a tip Josie--a guy who is willing to try to sabotage your relationship with someone or tries to make you feel guilty by screwing or nearly screwing your friend is NOT A GOOD PERSON!!! She needs to get a clue and pretty fast!

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  16. I'm glad everyone else is thinking the same thing as me... Ashley is prego.

    On another note, I liked Peter a lot the first time around, but now he seems bitter & mean. Sex isn't everything, and he's becoming less fun in the meantime. Time to drop him. He's right. He's too old for that shit.

    The whole Richard thing needs to be addressed, not swept under the rug. Pull a Peter & introduce Richard to the ultimatum: best behavior or hit the road.

    Can't wait for Thursday! (:

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  17. Still mad that we never heard more about Grady - Josie is harsh to judge him for his side job. Acting is nearly impossible; Grady is just trying to make ends meet. He seemed to want to get to know Josie as a person as opposed to trying to make her fit a role the way Peter and Richard do.

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  18. I can't stand this - Josie needs to hang on to Peter. He is kind, hot, stable, mature, etc.... I don't think 10 years is too much of an age difference & he could probably make her pretty happy I bet. I think she needs to give it a chance at least & not jack around with Richard. He only wants one thing & once he gets he will move on & they will lose their friendship. Please keep Peter around.

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  19. Josie should hook up with Richard! No awkwardness now that he's not working with her anymore. Although I will miss the sex scenes with Peter!!!!!!!

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  20. Ashleys pregnant!!! Lol anyways....josie needs to realise shes about to lose her epic love with Peter if she keeps holding back =( just jump into it josie and love being in love!

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    1. Yes! I couldn't have said it better!

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    2. Omg, during the last post I thought that too! I was wondering when she would bring ashley back into the story and I was like hmm wouldn't it be interesting if she was pregnant....!!!

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  21. Bored out of my skull with PETER!

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  22. Peter says he's too old for this shit....well, so am I, and I'm younger than both of them.

    When you tell a man to leave his girlfriend if he wants to reach out, have mind-blowing lovemaking sessions, and then say "you're not exclusive," there's an issue.

    When you're toying with the thought of screwing a coworker who is not only a payer but tried to play your friend to make you jealous, there's an issue.

    When you are given a choice to go exclusive with the man you really want, but you don't think you're ready for a relationship, but you don't want to lose him.....THERE IS A FUCKING ISSUE!

    Josie and Peter could TOTALLY take it slow in a monogamous relationship! Without anyone else in the equation to mess with their minds, they could truly assess what life would be like together and committed, like a trial test, and see if it was even meant to be! What Josie's doing is based off her youth and immaturity (sorry it's the truth) and she's being faced with a man who doesn't have the time nor the patience to be strung along while SHE figures it all out.

    Thank you, Ms. Knoll, for reminding me why I thought Josie wasn't right for Peter in the first place. I thought it could work, but right when she has everything anded to her, she still doesn't take it, and now I just want Peter to grab his heart and RUN with it.
    (rant over)

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    1. This!!!!!!!! 100% agree

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    2. I agree, too! But I hope Josie has a change of heart & decides that Peter is what she needs/wants.

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    3. This. 100% disagree

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  23. Seriously Josie is just being desperate, she was hung up on Peter forever and now that she has him she wants this Richard loser.

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  24. Anyhoo, so i don't get it. Josie is pretty much in a relationship with Peter, why not just call it what it is. If it doesn't work out whatever, if it does then great. A big problem for them is peer pressure. She's young and so is he, why the hell does he and his friends act like he is running out of time....

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  25. Doesn't Peter want kids? Didn't Josie say she doesn't? How can anyone say it will work with Peter and Josie when they want different things? Peter and Josie do not have a real relationship with any stable foundation. They have great sex. That's all I see. Si I'm obviously missing something. At least Josie and Richard are friends. *shrug*

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  26. I don't understand why she is saying that she wants to take things slow when they are doing everything an exclusive couple does. The only difference is if they make it exclusive they can't date other people which they have already said they don't want to date others. Josie still likes Richard regardless of all the douche things he has said and done and Peter is the one stuck dealing with it. Peter deserves much better

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  27. Anyone else find it interesting that she is pulling the same kinda stunt that Justin pulled on her when she wanted to put a title on things and be exclusive?

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    1. Right - hypocritical much, Josie?

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    2. I was thinking the exact same thing!

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  28. I would appreciate the idea that she wants to take things slow, except for the fact that everything Josie's claimed she's wanted is being handed to her... and now all of a sudden she doesn't want it. I truly just feel bad for Peter. Josie's starting to act a little like Elizabeth with the whole getting what she wants and then not wanting it once she gets it (even though elizabeth is way wayyy worse). I love Peter and I want him to stay around and be with Josie, but Josie really does need to be decisive. She's confusing the poor guy and it's not fair to him when he basically declared that he wants to be with her more than anyone else.

    So please knock some good common sense into Josie and make her realize that being with Peter doesn't mean she can't take things slow. If anything, I think she owes it to herself (and to Peter) to just try it. And if it doesn't work, it doesn't work! Just TRY it and see if this is really what you want rather than trying to GUESS if this is what you want!! Try it and find out! I personally think Peter could make Josie happy, but she needs to just made a decision. Just my opinion though :)

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  29. JOSIE!!!! THE MAN WANTS TO LOVE YOU SO LET HIM!!!!! Goodness gracious, I just don't understand why she's even considering richard. In my opinion, there's no comparison when it comes down to him and Peter

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  30. I'm so tired of Josie trying to make things work. If Peter and Josie were meant to be she would know it. Time to set him free and find out who the universe will send her way! Also by wait I do not mean Richard he is definitely not relationship material!!

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  31. Well if she does actually let Peter go (which I hope doesn't happen), he's going to have to come around again at some point. I mean he did bid $5,500 for a dinner date with Josie, didn't he? I wonder when that's gonna happen.

    I am totally team Peter though. I love the guy, but like a lot of other people it frustrates me that Josie can't just make up her mind. And I do get the feeling that she's being a bit hypocritical after the whole exclusivity thing with Justin.

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  32. I realize I'm in the minority here, but I don't get how Peter has a leg to stand on here. He's been sleeping around but gets upset when Josie kisses another guy?? And now he wants to be exclusive, but I don't think this is entirely fair. Josie stopped because it wouldn't have been right; meanwhile, Peter's been hooking up with other women without a second thought! They've been acting like they're in a relationship and Josie respected that it just wouldn't have been right to sleep with Richard, but Peter's been disregarding that fact with not one time but multiple women by the sounds of it! I know they're not officially exclusive but sometimes it's more about a partner being led on, and frankly, it sounds like Richard was absolutely right about Peter getting to sleep with Josie with no commitments while she's thinking they have something

    Yes, he wants to be exclusive now, but in terms of their discussion about other people, he's totally hypocritical. Getting upset over a little kiss that was a quick mistake when he's been consciously dating multiple women? It's ridiculous.

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    1. "It's like friends trying to set me up," he said. "But the whole time I'm with these women I just wish I was with you."

      I don't think he's sleeping around. His friends are setting him up on blind dates. He goes on the dates, but all he can think about is being with Josie. It just sounds like he's had several first dates.

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    2. oh I got the impression that it started that way with the women he's seeing but that's his explanation of the fact that he's not emotionally invested with them...anyone else have a read on this?

      It still bugs me that he's consciously deciding to see other people and gets upset when Josie makes a three-second almost-mistake ... I mean if he's going on dates he's probably at least kissed them. And, again, I think the difference between deciding the play the field and a single kiss without meaning to (she was drunk it just happened...very different from going on a date planned, especially when it's clearly happening multiple times) ...what bugs me is the implication that she did the worse thing, I definitely think Peter is taking them less seriously by playing the field while she saw a single drunken kiss as something she felt guilty about in the previous post.

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    3. Richard's text to Josie: 'I really have nothing to say for myself except to say I'm sorry. Not that it matters, but I didn't sleep with her.'

      This made it sound like Richard and Josie are sleeping with each with other. I think that's why Peter was questioning the text. I also think that's one of major downfalls when people have "relationships" without rules and parameters. Lot's of assumptions and hurt feelings.

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    4. Yeah definitely didn't read it as Peter sleeping around with other women. I read it as exactly what Nani said... his friends have set him up, but he just wants to be with Josie.

      And I don't think Peter's getting upset at the fact that Josie kissed Richard. Yeah it hurt him, just like Josie pointed out that it hurt her that he's seeing other women. But I think he's mainly upset because he pretty much told Josie that he wants to be with her and not other women, but Josie can't make a decision and he doesn't want to play mind games anymore and he feels like that's what she's doing with him

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  33. Sooo...here's something I'm shocked to say: I agree with everything peter said to josie. I haven't been a fan of peter at all, but he's right, if neither of them wants to date other people then it sounds like they're exclusive. But josie doesn't want that so it almost seems like she's trying to see if something better comes along then she can say ”well we're not exclusive”. Just like with justin, first she wanted to be serious then she wasn't so sure. The same with peter the first time around. But I guess in her defense, the guys did mess things up the first time so I could see her feelings changing. But this post made peter seem too mature for josie. The fact that she was thinking about richard as soon as she left peters apartment shows that she's definitely interested in him. She hasn't denied it, but I think she's sort of in denial about how much she likes him. I almost think she doesn't WANT to like him, but she can't help it. I see a definite hookup between them in the future. How it will end, only jessica can come up with that! Lol. It can work out or be disastrous, so whatever happens next should be interesting :-)

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  34. She needs to just try things w/ peter (actually try and not worry about richard) give it a real shot. He's good for her and they are cute together.

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  35. Peter might be boring but he's steady! He might be the one for Josie.

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    1. Who wants to read a boring blog????? Lol

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  36. the coconut bangers ball.. it's a smash!

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  37. this character is so crazy, when she wanted something that she didn't have she was unhappy, now that she have something good she wants something else, she is bipolar, Peter should run for his life, and let her be with Richard and be miserable she deserves somebody as crazy and childish as her,

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  38. I love this blog, always look forward to Wednesdays and Fridays to read it. For some reason I like Richard and hope Josie gives it a go with him, even though she has claimed like a thousand times that we would never! I have nothing against Peter but he doesn't do it for me. He sounds like a nice guy and his lovemaking is pretty steamy but he wants different things from Josie so in the long run I doubt things will work out between them.

    Again keep up the good work Jessica. i am looking forward to tomorrow's post, in my case Friday.

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  39. THIS IS THE SAME ISH THAT JUSTIN DID TO HER!!
    What in the hell---you go over to his house you have great sex you feel a connection you make plans to meet you don't want him with anyone else he doesn't want you with anyone else---
    And yet....youre not ready for a relationship.

    Yeah, she's a female version of Justin now, whic is worse cuz she actually knows how it feels to be played with. Josie? Really?

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    1. Agreed!

      Team Peter all the way!

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    2. Damn straight! Get your act together Josie!!! Peter is who you need.

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  40. Please choose to be with Peter

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  41. Peter is perfectly in his right to give Josie an ultimatum, because as many have pointed out, she is pulling the same crap Justin pulled on her. We usually only get the sex scenes, but context implies that they hang out a lot and the fact that she even had any guilt over the kiss with Richard means she doesn't truly feel "single" in this situation. HOWEVER. We all saw how things worked out with Justin. He didn't want to lose her, but he ultimately never truly stopped resenting her for forcing him to choose being in a "labelled" relationship. In my opinion, if choosing to be with someone is such a difficult, tumultuous process, it's not meant to be and the relationship will eventually fail. You'd always have it in your mind that you forced them into the relationship, and on the other end, you'd always feel a bit of resentment. I've been through this situation myself. I know choosing to be in a relationship isn't always black and white, but if it's meant to be and you really have the passion it takes to sustain something long term, being with that person and making it work will always be first priority. Maybe Josie doesn't want to get involved with Richard, and that's probably a good idea. But it's pretty clear she wants to be able to explore her options, which is totally fine as well. She just needs to be straight up with Peter. It's gonna hurt because she cares about him and they have a great time, but it's time for her to be a grown up. Hes getting older and he wants to settle down, it's possible that a 25 year old could want those things too, but Josie doesn't. Dump Peter, don't be immature and shitty when he finds another girl who makes him happy. Go have fun. Be single. Learn about yourself. Then you'll know in your heart when you ARE ready and won't be so conflicted the next time a really great guy comes along.
    Or, keep up the drama! It's fun to read =P

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  42. I agree. However knowing Josie thus far even though she doesn't want Peter, when he moves on she'll still cry like a little girl and bitch.

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  43. I think the problem ultimately isn't about the individual qualities of Peter or Richard. It's more than Peter represents growing up and settling down and being "an adult". Richard represents being young and free and fun. Josie, at 25, is torn between these qualities: she wants to grow up and be independent and mature but she isn't ready to let go of that sense of youthful freedom that marriage and children make sort of impossible. I know Peter isn't proposing or anything, but his age makes those things a lot more salient for Jos than a guy like Richard. Jos needs a guy who's like 28, haha. Someone she can grow with- not someone who grew up already and is waiting for her to catch up (Peter) or someone who is acting like he's still in college and holding her back (Richard).

    That being said, I think she could have a really fulfilling relationship with Peter or a really fun fling with Richard. Both will make for great blogging :) :)

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  44. I think the problem ultimately isn't about the individual qualities of Peter or Richard. It's more than Peter represents growing up and settling down and being "an adult". Richard represents being young and free and fun. Josie, at 25, is torn between these qualities: she wants to grow up and be independent and mature but she isn't ready to let go of that sense of youthful freedom that marriage and children make sort of impossible. I know Peter isn't proposing or anything, but his age makes those things a lot more salient for Jos than a guy like Richard. Jos needs a guy who's like 28, haha. Someone she can grow with- not someone who grew up already and is waiting for her to catch up (Peter) or someone who is acting like he's still in college and holding her back (Richard).

    That being said, I think she could have a really fulfilling relationship with Peter or a really fun fling with Richard. Both will make for great blogging :) :)

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    1. Wow. This may be the most illuminating analysis of this post yet.

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  45. Are we really wanting to see Josie slip back into another "I am a crappy friend because I am selfish" storyline? What happens if she explores a fling with Richard and ultimately Kate finds out? Kate seems to care about Richard even if it is one sided. Josie knows that. Josie works with her! Josie doesn't need to settle down if she doesn't want to, but for crying out loud, she needs to grow up! At 25, the issue of being a good friend shouldn't contain drama. Lose Richard!

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  46. Whoa, he's mad at her, when he's taken things further than she has? He admitted they're not together, and that they're in the same place of not knowing what they want. Yet he gets mad at her?

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  47. I have a prediction:
    Josie will see Ashley freaking out about being preggers by her married boss, and Josie will have a vision of being in a situation as dramatic as that, and then she'll realize that a life of self indicated drama and self victimization is NOT FOR HER.
    Then she'll choose Peter. :)

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